She Stories shares the inspiring stories of the every day woman. Each week, we feature an amazing woman and her incredible story of courage and resilience.
It’s our favorite day of the week again, FEATURE FRIDAY!!! We love to feature women near and far. This week’s feature comes to us from beautiful Portland! She has a deep seeded passion for music and a never ending need to help those around her, primarily foster care and at-risk youth.
Everyone, meet CRISTINA!
Cristina was born in Rome, Italy, but was reborn in Portland in 2014. Before she even knew English, she was introduced to American music. She developed her love for singing through such artists as Mariah Carey, Michael Jackson, Jimi Hendrix, Bob Marley, and Culture Club. When she was ushered into the world of music videos, this only extended her love because now the music was visual. She loved that the artist could bring the words to life using their voice, while the video gave a visual interpretation. This was also a major tool in her learning English. For her 6th birthday, she bought Michael Jackson’s Dangerous album. She wrote down the lyrics and recited them over and over again, until she knew the song by heart. But she also wanted to know what the words meant, so she used a dictionary to interpret their meanings. As we know, music is a universal language, but Cristina was able to apply this learning to assist her in communicating with others.
As she fell more in love with Portland and the energy she received, she was able to plant her feet in film and new media. But she also developed a love for humanity, and began volunteering for causes both in the US and in Italy. She found herself moved to raise awareness for children in the foster care system, and has used her voice to bring this matter to surface in her community. Cristina has a heart to help others, especially those that aren’t in a position at the moment, to help themselves.
Since Italy is such a major part of who she is, she’s used her abilities to evolve the Italian Film Festival in Portland, OR. Cristina and her crew bring movies, entertainment and the Italian culture to her community. After seeing how many people really enjoy the taste of Italy she brings, she was able to redefine and eliminate stereotypes that many had of Italians. She features great quality and ORIGINAL films with English subtitles. And the best part is that this festival is completely free for anyone who’d love to attend. It’s important for her to educate and spread her love of Italy to those around her.
Cristina is a leader, and uses every avenue she’s travelled to bring joy to others, whether it be through her music, through her events, or through her campaigns. She Stories is right along with her. We all come from somewhere, we’ve all experienced some sort of fear when it comes to learning new things, but we’re all driven to help empower and educate those around us, by using whatever tools we’ve been given, and Cristina has done just that. Keep it up Cristina! We got you!!
PS…Cristina’s new music video for her song, Call Me, has just been released. This is her first music video, so please don’t hesitate to click the video below and show some support and encouragement. #tribe
Celebrity Edition: Joanna Gaines
We love us some celebrities here at She Stories, so today we’re having another “CELEBRITY EDITION”. In keeping up with our upcoming event, “Behind My Smile”, where we’ll be discussing mental health, we wanted this week’s feature to have first hand experience of going through and overcoming a major mental health obstacle. Being that celebrities may be put on a pedestal different that you and I, one thing in common are the mental health issues. As we know, mental health can break a person on any level. It doesn’t discriminate against race, religion, sexual orientation, criminal background, IQ scores, or credit rating. Literally ANYONE can have a “mental health moment”. This week’s feature has experienced these moments from the young age of 5.
MEET JOANNA GAINES!!!!!
She’s amazingly crafty, and has one of the greatest eyes for design. She’s also gorgeous, with such simple yet classic features. She’s also a mother of 5……YES! 5!!!! I believe anyone with more than 2 (or 1, depending on the kid) can be considered a SUPER MOM, but 5? I applaud any mom at this level of the game.
Joanna has spoken openly about her history and experiences with being bullied as a child, and the long lasting effects it had on her as an adult. Being that she is Lebanese, German, and Korean, she learned early on that she was “different”. In Kindergarten, she recalls being made fun of by the other kids for looking different than everyone else. Of course, at that age, she didn’t know how to process that kind of behavior or those words, but she felt “not good enough”. The feelings of not really fitting in or being popular became all too familiar as she carried on through school. She remembers not knowing who to sit with in the dreaded high school cafeteria, so she ate her lunch in the restroom. All those years of internalizing everyone’s scrutiny for not fitting in or looking like everyone else. That’s a lot of stress on a person’s mental health!
She has also admitted to putting on a smile and covering up the fact that she was hurting inside. Doing this is one of the most powerful ways to break down your own mental well-being. We can feed ourselves endless reasons why we’re not good enough, or why we’re not worthy of greatness. It happens every single day.
Joanna has also gone on to mention that her experiences as a youth gave her a unique tool as a mother. She has used these lessons and in turn, teaches her own children to be a friend to someone who might not have many friends. Kids learn at a young age to either sink or swim, and she’s teaching them to swim, but to help someone who might be struggling. What an amazing life tool, because this also applies to us as adults. That’s what we’re about at She Stories, using our life experiences to help other women overcome theirs, and to keep the cycle going.
We’re forever a fan, Joanna! (And congrats on the new baby!)
Hey ladies!! (and any gents that may be reading this…) *we don’t discriminate* ; )* I hope you ALL had an amazing 4th of July, and that your month has started off with a bang, both literally and figuratively. It couldn’t be any more fitting that this week’s feature is a great big amazing firework herself.
Everyone, I’d like you to meet….DAWN BENSON!
Those who know me, know that I weigh heavily on words, meanings, and understandings. And as I got to going over Dawn’s information she had sent in, I kept seeing fireworks in my head. I was visualizing the process a firework goes through to have this amazing end result of lights, sparkles, and color. And it all seemed to fit with Dawn’s story.
Like many young girls or young women, Dawn felt she was ahead of her time. She was eager to see what the world had out there, and felt that she was mature enough to handle it. So she began exploring her curiosity a bit prematurely, which is typical with most teens, but as we know, most teens aren’t anywhere NEAR ready to handle the world and everything it throws at us.
At the tender age of 16, Dawn fell in love. She was in love with him, and he was “crazy” for her. It was perfect! This is the lighting of the firework in my analogy. A flame is sparked, and it looks great. We’re excited to see it shoot off.
Well, before long, she was learning what an abusive relationship looks, feels, and acts like. She wasn’t learning this through seeing a family member go through it, she was experiencing this all herself. She found herself being completely controlled by her boyfriend. He kept Dawn on a tight leash. He made sure she didn’t go out looking too attractive. Eventually this lead to him beating her, just to make sure she was less desirable to the opposite sex. He let her know that nobody else could have her, and that if she ever thought of leaving, her family and friends, AND HERSELF, were all at risk. Her flame was dying. Similar to how you light the wick on a firework, and sometimes the flame goes out right before it blasts off. This is what was happening to Dawn, she was losing her glow.
But like we all know, right when the flame on the wick goes out, it’s only a matter of time before the firework takes off. It climbs higher and higher. This is exactly what took place in Dawn’s life. Just when her light faded, she didn’t see a way out. But one day, IT HAPPENED! She saw God standing by an open door, waiting for her to find her way to it. She was eventually able to get out of the chains she was in, and be set free. And just like the firework, she climbed and climbed, to seek the woman she was designed to be and to develop the purpose that was on her life. Her firework exploded to show the amazing display of light, sparkle, and color.
Today, Dawn serves others as a Minister and a Prophet, but she’s also a wife, a sister, and a friend. She uses her journey of abuse to help women going through the same journey. She owns the responsibility she’s been given to encourage and motivate others, and to use her story as a tool to repair broken spirits and hearts.
Dawn is absolutely amazing AND she’s a SURVIVOR! We love you, Dawn, and are honored to help you spread your testimony of strength during weak moments. #isurvived
We always think of our features as bold and fierce women from all different parts, and diverse backgrounds. If I had to visualize a random feature, it’d definitely be in the form of Wonder Woman. This week’s feature is more of a Tinkerbell with magic under her wings.
Let’s give a standing ovation to this week’s Feature Friday, Chante Cruse!
Chante is a true creative, in the entire definition. She’s a musician, a dancer, a natural hairstylist, a radio personality, and an educator. She has her hands in so many different places and making so many different moves, it’s no wonder she looks as young and as full of life as a high school graduate. She has played the Saxophone since she was 8. Then in 2015, she relocated to New Orleans to immerse herself fully into jazz music and arts education. Chante is also a professional Modern and West African dancer. She’s been featured in videos for Solange and Tariq Al-Sabir. Her ultimate professional goal is to found and manage her own performing arts school. SIGN ME UP!
Moving back to Cali has allowed her to gain experience as a natural hairstylist. Chante is also the host of an amazing self care podcast called, Good Morning, Bae. You can catch her live every Tuesday morning! She’s also a co-host on Dani’s Dilemmas, where I had initially met her. She’s absolutely beautiful on the outside, but then she speaks, and she captures you in conversation. I love when a person speaks with authority, but doesn’t hog the mic. She speaks with confidence and knows how to use her words. On top of all that, she also loves to write, paint, and meditate. She’s unstoppable!
Chante has always had a spiritual connection with God, even as a child. From a young girl, she was surrounded by spiritually gifted people, who enabled her to align herself with the voice of God, which set her apart from the “rest”. Being unique as a child developed her to be unique as a woman. Pair that with her natural leadership skills, and you have a female force with mogul minded intelligence. It’s only right that Oprah is one of her major inspirations.
Being that Chante has lived in 4 different places in the last 10 years, she’s learned to tread lightly on the word “friends”. And she considers her true friends to be the ones who hold it down no matter the distance, time, and moves. Her tribe is one she can count on to push her to the finish line when she feels she’s falling behind. They remind her of how far she’s come whenever self doubt tries to make an appearance. She leans on her tribe, and when they need to lean, she’s there to support as well.
She’s an amazing soul, with an even more amazing mind. And we can’t wait to see what’s in store next for our girl!
GET IT CHANTE!!!!!! You are loved!
Celebrity Edition: Gabrielle Union
Sometimes, we enjoy featuring our favorite celebrities. We like doing this for a few reasons. One, because they’re using the platform they’ve been blessed with to speak on topics that they’re passionate about. And two, because their stories aren’t too far from us “commoners”. Not everyone has a traumatic story, but everyone has a journey of growth. And one thing we believe is that we’re all headed up the same mountain, we just take different routes to get to the next level. Some are harder than others, but we’re all striving to be greater, while throwing down some rope to the climbers below.
This week’s feature is an award winning actress, the wife of NBA star Dwayne Wade, an activist who’s voice has been heard speaking for assaulted women, rape victims, political outreach, equal rights campaigns, and an award winning author.
She is none other than Gabrielle Union.
Born in Nebraska, Gabrielle was the daughter of a social worker and a military sergeant. As a child, she was always raised to stand on her own and to be independent. So she had a sense of discipline, while also having empathy for other people’s situations. Her parents raised her to look at the world as a whole unit of uniqueness, and to appreciate the differences in others, not just herself.
As a young girl, Gabrielle struggled with her personal appearances, and always felt that she wasn’t pretty enough. She didn’t see many people that looked like her on the covers of magazines. Her idea of what real beauty was consisted of blonde hair and porcelain skin, and it took her a very long time to see that the outer appearance was a very small piece of what made people like her beautiful. Then, at 19, she became a survivor of rape, and she gradually learned that despite this low point, she had a voice and an obligation to stand for herself.
After making her debut in television, she later transitioned into movies, and so she began building her own safe place to speak on matters that moved her personally such as sexual assault. She also made a way to share her voice in movements for Trayvon Martin, abortion, and violence against women.
If there’s one thing that personal experience teaches us, it’s that we have the ability to overcome. And this is exactly the lesson that Gabrielle needed to receive in order to turn her circumstances around, and help others through their growth as well. Having the experience of sexual abuse, lack of self love, and the passion to stand for the underdog has given Gabrielle the volume to speak her truth. She’s a survivor! She fell back on the words she learned growing up about standing for herself. This has allowed her to help others that have gone through some of the same issues.
Last year, Gabrielle published her first book, We’re Going to Need More Wine, where she elaborates on her personal stories that range anywhere from sexuality to womanhood to marriage. She also acknowledges that she’s graduating to another stage in her life, where she’s more concerned with her inner well being, rather than the outer beauty she once idolized.
We love you Gabrielle, for your growth, your beauty, and your transparency. We love you for creating a safe place for women to embrace their flaws and to grow through them. She’s #tribestrong and we couldn’t love her more!
We’re back ladies! And we have another treat for you today. This week’s feature has her hands in a little bit of everything; modeling, writing, podcast personality, a mother, a wife, and most importantly, she’s a survivor.
MEET DANIELLE aka Dani!
When I first met Dani, I was greeted with a huge smile, and easily one of the best hugs ever! Have you ever given someone a hug, and felt a connection of real sisterhood? Like an old friend you haven’t seen in forever. Yeah, that was her hug. Her smile was big, and her energy was even bigger. But just like every diamond, she went through a long, hard coal phase.
Shortly after having children, Dani found herself in a spin cycle of hormones and emotions which lead to postpartum depression. This spiral grew further into anxiety and PTSD. All the while, she’s having to maintain appearances to her family, her friends, and her associates. In order to cope with everything, she relied on anti depressants and opioids, which also took her down path of addiction.
Anyone who’s ever experienced these things knows that having young kids alone, is an on and off battle of sanity. Let alone any mental health issues or addictions to go with it. Dani was on the verge of losing her mind (literally) and most of all, losing herself. In a society that didn’t embrace all her attributes, her light was dimmed by endless amounts of criticism, lack of respect, and little support for who she was and who she wanted to be.
It took quite a while before the wheels of change gained their momentum, and she was able to make some revisions in her life. Part of that was owning her truth, and knowing 100% who she was. She’s black, she’s loud, she’s raw, and her presence was not to be shut down. Society had tried to force her to tame herself, quiet her voice, and blend in a little more. But she knew she was purposed for something greater.
She was learning to embrace her body and her curves, which turned into modeling. She also developed a platform which allowed to speak freely about topics she felt needed to be heard. As the host of the weekly podcast, Dani’s Dilemmas, she turned the same voice that was once criticized into an open forum to discuss real life issues like parenting, divorce, LGBTQ related matters, and cultural appropriation.
Dani is now thriving and paying it forward by helping others in her community to acknowledge their own voice, and teaching them how to use it effectively. She’s managed to uprise her downfalls, while maintaining a career, a home, a marriage, and her sanity.
We love you Dani, and we’re honored to have you as a part of our TRIBE!
On a side note, you can listen to SheStories on Dani's Dilemmas below. We laughed, sipped some wine, and discussed parenting.
Celebrity Edition: Blake Lively
G’mornin tribe!! HAPPY FEATURE FRIDAY!!! This week’s feature has her hands in television and movies, her smile can light up a midnight sky, and her husband is none other than Ryan Reynolds *swoon*. Yes, this weeks feature is BLAKE LIVELY!!
Growing up, Blake always had the gift of acting, but didn’t want to professionally pursue it until later in life. Her mother was a talent scout, and her father was an actor. So her creative side was heavily nurtured at a very young age. Her parents also taught acting classes, and instead of paying for a babysitter, they brought Blake along to the classes. She would soak up the lessons like a sponge. Before she was even a teenager, Blake had learned so much from watching her parents coach up-and-coming actors and actresses. This led to earning a role in her first movie, which her father directed in 1998, Sandman. Applying the skills she learned, Blake gained self confidence and discipline. She was coming out of her shell.
But acting and Ryan aren’t her only passions. She’s a skilled and credited pastry chef, and has a love for interior design. She’s a perfect match with Martha Stewart, who she’s also done projects with. She’s also given her voice in politics, showing her support for Barack Obama. She’s used her acting to star in campaign commercials for the 44th President. She also involved herself with MoveOn.org as an advocate for their Youth Vote program. She spoke out for awareness in support of women’s issues in education, justice, and health. Her plate has been filled with more projects that she holds close, while maintaining her presence in Hollywood. She’s unstoppable!
Other than Blake’s bright smile on the screens, we’re in love with her passion to not be silenced for what she believes in. She goes all-in for the purposes that she can have the most impacts. And she does it with grace and style. She’s learned to take some of the things she learned as a child in those acting classes, and use them to broaden her voice and audience. Blake is fully aware of the gifts she’s been blessed with, and has paid it forward to bring awareness to important topics concerning women.
We love you Blake! (And Ryan too!)
Glenda K. Harrison
The more we do Feature Fridays, the more I’m reminded that there are so many dope, courageous, inspiring women out there. It doesn’t matter whether they’re business owners, students, or just your normal day to day hustler. These women all have something to give; their voice, their truth, and their journey.
This week’s feature has had several ups and downs along her path. She’s covered a majority of the spectrum when it comes to chasing her dreams.
Tribe, meet Glenda K. Harrison!
As a girl, when all the other kids in the neighborhood were outside, riding bikes, and jumping rope, Glenda could be found in her mother’s closet, trying on her clothes. Putting different pieces together and learning how to appreciate a pattern and texture. Some little girls like to wear dresses, but Glenda took it to the next level. In her free time, she loved to go to the library, browse all the fashion magazines, then go home to call her friends and coordinate the next day’s outfit for them to all wear.
Later, as a young woman, she was groomed to believe that her dreams wouldn’t bring much success or wealth. She was encouraged to chase a typical 9 to 5, that it would be more stable. But her heart knew what it wanted. So Glenda continued to pursue her passion for fashion by furthering her education at FIDM (Fashion Institute of Design and Merchandising).
Then, 30 plus years later, life had brought her along a different path. She had married, birthed two sons, buried her mother, and internalized years of harsh words and people telling her she couldn’t. All this weighed heavy on her, as she was prepared to bury her dreams and goals. And in doing this, she would essentially bury herself. But Glenda knew her truth, which was to take these experiences she’s had over the last thirty years, and use them to proceed down her journey and passion. It took the launch of a non profit in her mother’s memory and some other life changing moments to reveal that she was ready to let the world know who Glenda K. Harrison really is, and to be the woman she’s always desired to be.
At the seasoned aged of 48, she began her blog, So What to Twenty. This was used to relaunch her way into the fashion industry. While the industry is head over heels for the twenty-somethings, Glenda used her platform to let everyone know that the elder woman is a vibrant and bold being, and not to be overlooked. On her road of self discovery, she shared her journey with her readers, and this eventually turned itself into her first book, A Place Called Peace.
Glenda has gone on to be featured in Chico’s blog and campaigns. At 50, she began a project that has unfolded over several decades - a book on the subject of fashion and style. As she continued to peel away her own layers to discover her true self, she learned that fashion is not just about the clothes you wear. It’s more than that. It’s the essence of the very beauty we see in ourselves. Last year, Glenda published TRUE STYLE: A Look Beyond the Surface, launched her website, STYLE, and a virtual styling service called The Harmony Approach.
She is currently finding every opportunity to share her findings with the rest of the world. Showing other women how to use their past to make their future flourish, and that there are no mistakes, only learning opportunities.
One thing her mother told her before she left this earth was, “One day, you’re going to fly.” Her mother was right, because she’s still soaring. She’s proven that there’s still power left in her wings.
We've added an excerpt of her books, The Purpose of Butterfly Wings. It's an amazing piece about the significance and beauty behind a butterfly's wings, and every woman should read it.
We love you Glenda! #tribestrong
It’s our favorite day of the week at She Stories, Feature Friday! Last week’s feature was a woman who pushed for loving your body. Well, this week’s feature pushes for loving what you put ON your body. It’s almost cliche to say that self love and fashion are like Christmas and Santa, they just go together. When you’re on a journey of loving your body, it’s easy to take notice to how things hug your curves, or what colors favor your skin. And our feature this week sees the beauty in all of it.
Meet Marymarie Nevels!
I’ve had the pleasure of meeting Marymarie at a recent Shestories event, and let me just say, “She’s a brick house!” She is amazingly beautiful. Like a queen palm, tall and mighty with a flowing crown of fronds. Absolutely stunning! Upon meeting her, I had no idea she had such a long journey in fashion, but once I learned of her passion, it made perfect sense why she was flawlessly put together.
Marymarie has made it her mission to spread the importance of self acceptance and diversity in fashion. She’s a born Southern girl from Nashville. As a young woman, the modeling bug had bitten her while she was in high school, when she was asked to take part in her school’s prom fashion show. Shortly after, she was requested to model for a local department store. Marymarie knew she was onto something.
Armed with her brains and her beauty, she graduated high school, and went on to intern for Tommy Hilfiger New York, and was mentored by Ginny Hilfiger, Tommy’s sister. During her internship, she was able to shine and flourish, so it wasn’t long before Ginny encouraged her to enroll in the Fashion Institute of Technology in New York. This lead her to complete her Bachelor’s Degree from Middle Tennessee State University and then go back to New York city where she graduated with honors from F.I.T. Marymarie didn’t stop there though, she proceeded to work for such companies as Fendi, Diane Von Furstenberg, and Ralph Lauen. She thrived in fashion, and eventually came to a plateau. She wanted to expand on her purpose, so she set her eyes on Los Angeles, where she’s been able to grow her career opportunities by getting back into modeling, and also working in styling and sales.
One of the greatest things about Marymarie is that she doesn’t quit. She’s continuously setting new and higher goals for herself. She’s been in LA for 5 years now. And while she’s a signed model in Beverly Hills, she’s also known as a micro influencer/blogger. She’s been a model for Tasha Apparel, and an Instagram model for Fox Bait LA. She’s also been featured in Oxygen Magazine for a piece with Moriche Palm, a fitness platform that celebrates women’s curves.
She wants to eventually work around the world as a model/fashion influencer. Her hustle is inspirational, and it’s pretty safe to say she was (literally) built for this. She understands the importance of feeling good in what you wear, while looking good and living your best life possible. Her work mode is unstoppable, and she’s proven over and over that she can crush any goal she sets her mind to. The words she lives by are simple, “GO BIG OR GO HOME!” And it’s applied to almost any and all situations she may come across.
We love you Marymarie, and we love what you bring to the self-love community!
As women, we tend to get sucked into society’s definition of what’s beautiful. Your skin can’t be too light or too dark. You can’t have too many curves. God forbid your thighs touch! Well, She Stories embraces all of it. The light, the dark, the slim, the thick, the curly, the straight, every single little detail about your body is exactly what makes you beautiful.
This week’s feature has seen the dark side of self harm and eating disorders, and has transformed into a body loving coach. She’s nothing short of DOPE.
Meet Cera Byer!
If you were able to make our event last weekend, you caught a glimpse of this femme fatale in the black dress. I had the opportunity to chat with her before she went on to speak, and it was just like having “girl talk”. We laughed about thigh sweat, and other joys of womanhood. She’s got curves for days, and you could tell that this woman loves her body and loves herself. This was the exact focus of the night.
Cera comes from Oakland, and everything about her mannerisms, vocab, and expressions give life. She has a flavor that you can’t quite put a finger on, so you take another bite, and before you know it, you devoured your whole plate.
She was put on her first diet at 6 years old, and addicted to ephedra from 11 to 22. She learned from a young age that her body wasn’t like everyone else. She was bullied and teased, and by the time puberty hit, she hated the skin she was in. At such a sensitive time in her life as a young woman, she was already carrying several years of baggage of this shell that never quite fit in anywhere.
This lead her to a path of self destruction. She began cutting and starving herself. She comforted the years of self hate with sexual encounters that did nothing to ease the pain. After a few times of almost losing her own life, she knew she was at a crossroad. It wasn’t until she was 27 that she realized that she wanted to live. The sole thought of “Maybe I don’t want to die yet” was exactly the tool she needed to begin the shift. After that, came several “Maybe I should” moments.
“Maybe I should stop being so mean to myself.”
“Maybe I should giving BS people access to my body.”
“Maybe I should support my own dreams without reservation.”
After years of learning how to shift her heart, she soon realized that she was absolutely in love with herself. The moth emerged from the cocoon as a butterfly. The same body she was groomed to hate and tried to change, was the same body that she now embraced. She found the “flaws” to be unique, like a custom designer dress. Cera knew that the only door to self love was through her own heart. And instead of changing how her body looked, she changed the way she felt about it.
Before she knew it, people were reaching out to Cera, letting her know how much of an inspiration she is. And this triggered The BodyLove Lab, a 7 week program that offers healing in the relationship between you and your body. She coaches women on how to love every curve they’re blessed with, and how to not look at our bodies as “the enemy”. She’s also a dancer, an artist, and a writer. She’s absolutely limitless.
So many times, we hit dark times in our lives, but it’s what comes out of he dark that really matters. Cera has managed to turn every thought of self hate into the exact opposite, and she’s teaching other women to do the same.
We love having Cera in our tribe of fierce women!
Celebrity Edition: Demi Lovato
This week’s celebrity feature is bold, strong, and courageous. Like most of the feature’s prior, she embodies perseverance, determination, and is no stranger to the struggle. She’s managed to overcome hurdles like being bullied as a child, being raised in a split household, an abusive relationship with her father, eating disorders, addiction….the list can go on.
Meet Demi Lovato!
A young girl, born in New Mexico, but raised in Texas, Demi struggled with finding her own identity, like many children. She had been bullied for years, until she finally begged to be homeschooled. She knew from a young age that she was different. She wasn’t like everyone else. She didn’t realize how much of a blessing this would later be.
Demi has spoken on her abusive and strained relationship with her father, and even acknowledges the mental illness he suffered with. She’s also been through her share of romantic relationships, but later learned that in order for her to love anyone else fully, she would need to first love herself.
She’s been vocal about her issues with depression, self harm, bulimia, and bipolar disorder. All of which are far too common among young women. Demi soon found herself on a road of self destruction and a false sense of self acceptance.
This would eventually lead her to rehab and recovery. Not only recovery from her substance abuse, but a full recovery of herself as a capable woman. Her strength was rediscovered, and she knew that she had to completely shift her focus to healing herself. She stayed in a sober living facility until she felt it was safe for her to return to her own home. In a sense, she was starting over, but with time came her motivation to stay clean and sober. Embracing her addictions and what she needed to overcome it, Demi was also able to tackle her mental health matters as well as her self harming behavior and bulimia. Dealing with addiction alone, is a huge mountain to climb and conquer, but to add everything else to it was on another level. She found that her ability to endure was greater than herself, and this ignited the fire to keep going.
In an effort to maximize her voice on the issues that mattered most, she used her platform to gain awareness on matters like gay rights, mental health, addiction, and eating disorders. She has also become a spokeswoman for an organization called PACER, who stands against bullying, as well as a school advocacy program, children’s hospitals throughout Souther California, and several campaigns for the LGBTQ community. She’s lent her voice to companies who build and encourage others, especially the younger generation.
SHE’S A BOSS!!!!!
What we love most about Demi, is her ability to not be held down by her faults. They’re nothing more than mere speed bumps in the road. She’s accepted that some things may need more time than others to work through, but she’s willing and capable. And while she’s healing herself, she’s also trying to lend her hand out to help others. And that’s what this is really all about. Learning from your struggles, and using those lessons to teach others. Seeing what’s missing in our younger generation, and filling in those gaps. Demi is so dope, and her strength continues to motivate us to keep going.
YOU ARE LOVED, DEMI!
We, at She Stories, are always moved by fellow women’s strength, endurance, and resilience. This week’s feature is nothing short of all this. She’s a creative, a nurturer in her community, a business owner, and a mom. Need we say more?
Meet Samantha Davis!
Samantha grew up in a single parent household. Her mother was an immigrant from Guatemala, who also pursued furthering her education and went on to earn her Master’s Degree in Psychology. She always taught Samantha the importance of success through hard work, and nothing less. With this drive and motivation, she applied herself and graduated college, after which she began her career in Visual Communications. This eventually developed into her role at Anthopologie as a Visual Manager. Samantha is no stranger to hard work.
But her story doesn’t end here.
While her corporate career allowed her to grow to the next level, she learned many new truths about herself, her life, and her purpose. Samantha knew she wanted to help others through healing and the growth attached to inner peace. In 2016, she became a Yoga Instructor, which was also a personal goal of hers. This new journey gave her the opportunity to be instrumental in other’s healing. She found this to be one of the most gratifying moments in her life. This was all prepping Samantha for her next role.
Only months later, she found that she was pregnant, and she’s been on the move ever since. Being pregnant renewed her mind, her body, and her soul. She was empowered more than ever. She realized that she was capable of anything. Samantha took full advantage of everything her pregnancy had to offer, from prenatal yoga, to water birth, and to placenta encapsulation. Despite all her joys from being pregnant, once she gave birth to her daughter, she found herself with an overwhelming sadness. Self doubt had taken over, and she felt like she was losing herself. She questioned her ability to be an adequate mother and partner. She had to rediscover herself, so while she was out on maternity leave, she started Mommy Made Encapsulation SoCal, which offers postpartum support to new mothers. Adapting to life as a new mom wasn’t even close to wearing Samantha down, she was also adapting to a new way of life, and a new business.
YOU GO GIRL!
Before this life, Samantha felt the need for things to be as perfect as possible, and to always do things herself. Now, she owes much of her drive to the support of her tribe. She learned that life isn’t perfect, things go wrong sometimes, but that there’s a lesson in every trial. Her business has given her the gift of witnessing woman persevere through postpartum, and this has allowed her daily motivation and inspiration from the very women seeking her professional support. What a blessing!
Samantha’s favorite quote ever is from Maya Angelou, “Strong women. May we know them, may we be them, and may we raise them.” This week’s amazing feature is doing just that.
WE LOVE YOU SAMANTHA!
Celebrity Edition: Adrienne Bailon
In continued celebration of powerful women using their voices to encourage and feed other women, we wanted to go with a woman who’s cultured, a women who’s seen trials both personally and professionally, and a woman who uses her platform to help others going through similar trials. This week’s feature is none other than the beautiful Adrienne Bailon.
This 35 year old Puerto Rican/Ecuadorian gem grew up in New York. Even though she wanted to pursue a medical career, it didn’t take her long to discover her true passion for singing and performing. Early in her career, Adrienne began singing in the group 3LW, but later expanded her audience by becoming a Cheetah girl. She’s been in a huge range of tv shows, and more recently, a member of the panel on The Real.
I didn’t really follow her in her music, and The Cheetah Girls was my daughter’s generation, but the more I watched her on television, the more I admired her transparency in sharing personal bumps in the road along with the viewers.
Adrienne recently opened up about being sexually harassed by a record executive, and how going through that made her stronger. She admitted that she was young at the time, but that the fear she felt was strong enough to keep her quiet. She decided that she would never allow fear to compromise her strength in standing up for herself or anyone else. She is also no stranger to failed relationships that required healing and inner growth to overcome. Adrienne has shared how she’s taken lessons from these relationships to fine tune her strengths and recognize her weaknesses in the dating world.
She has gone on to confirm that her greatest support has come from her faith in God, and that He carried her through the Hollywood scene during her younger years, and really protected her from taking darker roads when times were tougher. We all know the power of those who try to knock us off our course, but much of our inner strength comes from above.
Adrienne is a ray of bronze beauty, with the balance of sweet and spice. We love her energy, and the light she gives off despite the darkness she’s passed through. She’s relatable to women on all levels, and has the heart for uplifting women through her struggles.
She’s a part of our tribe! We love you Adrienne!
This week’s feature has a personal closeness to our tribe at She Stories. As a matter of fact, she’s the head of the tribe!
Meet our very own EHMANDAH!!!!
If you’ve ever gotten the chance to meet Ehmandah in person, you know her vibe is infectious. The energy she gives off leaves you feeling like you can take over anything that comes your way. This gift was evident as a young girl. She was raised to know her worth, recognize where it comes from, and to remain humble no matter how successful she becomes. Ehmandah belonged to a tribe of women that grew her and motivated her life before it was cool to belong to a tribe. Her support system consistently nurtured her dreams, desires, and goals. The force was strong!
As a young woman, like many of us, she fell in love with the man of her dreams. The honeymoon phase was an understatement. And she knew that he was THE ONE, even with the normal ups and downs all relationships go through. However, a few years into this love affair, she found herself in a real life domestic violence relationship. Before long, her own life was being compromised. She knew she had a choice to make, but she had to make this decision on her own two feet. Like most women in domestic violence situations, we hide the truth from everyone, our family, our friends…our tribe. The glow she had as a young girl had dimmed to a flicker. But she also had a daughter in this relationship, and she knew that this decision wasn’t just for herself, but for her child. She accepted the only way through this matter, was to get out. That one choice added just the right amount of fuel to get a spark going again.
And through the journey of emotional healing, self awareness, and forgiveness, she was able to bring that young girl back to life. And she came back fierce! The support from the sisterhood she left out for so long was stronger than ever. Ehmandah went back to those self affirmations from youth, and remembered how dope she really is. “You are worthy.” “You’re a bad chick.” “There’s no one like you.”
These little reminders were strong enough to keep the fire going, but she knew that she didn’t go through all of this just for the experience. She needed to use her experience to help others that might be going through similar situations. The more she shared her story, she found that her scenario wasn’t that uncommon. There’s women everywhere who’s light has lost it’s glow for whatever reason, and she made it her mission to help them switch the light back on.
Ehmandah has always known she had a purpose. She called on God to help direct her path as a Life Revisionist, because He had also directed her path when her own life was being revised, and it’s been non stop ever since. She Stories is the product of that choice she made several years ago. She Stories is about seeing your own self worth, and growing it to the next level. She Stories is a tribe of women that all have the common thread of empowerment.
WE LOVE YOU EHMANDAH!!!!!
Celebrity Edition: Danai Gurira
When we were thinking of who the celebrity should be, we thought “Who embodies a tribe mentality?” Danai Gurira won the vote.
This week’s feature is an actress who possesses everything powerful and beautiful about a woman. She’s known for her role in The Walking Dead, where she plays Michonne, a fearless femme hero who’s as cut-throat as the zombies.
I’m not too sure if there’s anyone left that hasn’t seen Black Panther yet, but if you haven’t, YOU SHOULD! The movie itself, is a masterpiece flowing with a great storyline, strength, beauty, and a message. Danai played a leader named Okoye, over the Dora Milaje tribe of women. She lead the tribe, stood loyal to her king, and fought courageously for her country, Wakanda. There’s a million reasons why Okoye would be a great feature, if I ever started doing fictional features, but I was eager to learn more about Danai.
She has her hands in so many different causes, but mainly pursues opportunities to empower women, women’s equality, and women’s rights. She founded a non profit called Love Our Girls, a group driven on equal rights and higher education for young girls and women. Danai believes that empowered women will empower women, and She Stories believes the same.
Her mother was a librarian, so books on any subject were homed at her fingertips. Her father was an educator. This allowed her to see the benefits of having further education, and gave her the push to continue hers. She works to make higher education more reachable for young women. Danai's from a small town in Iowa, where she went by Dede. Overall, she had a great childhood, but always knew she was different. Her family was 1 of 2 black families in her town. Going by Dede helped her “fit in” as a child. It was a lot “safer” for people to read. Shortly after, her family moved back to Zimbabwe. Over the next few years of her adolescence, her cultural roots began to take hold in her. She questioned why she didn’t speak Shona, her parent’s natural language. Danai quickly embraced the language and learned to appreciate it’s phonics in comparison to the American English she was used to. By embracing who she was culturally, she was able to set her longtime nickname free, and taking on her original true form, Danai. She came to recognize that she had rejected her own culture in an effort to blend in with everyone else, and that it was highly unacceptable. She was finally enjoying the fact that she wasn’t born to fit in. She was birthed to be bold.
Loving who she is has helped strengthened her platform, and has given her the tools to bring this out of other women. Danai understands that women are not second class citizens. We’re leaders and brave beings. She also understands that part of who she is, is an American. She’s appreciative of what being American has given to her, but has learned to balance this appreciation with the love for her culture.
Love Our Girls is the outcome of this balance. She Stories seeks out to celebrate strength in women, and everything that unites us, no matter how different we might be. The single thread that combines us is our love for self, and spreading this to everyone else.
We love you Danai!
She Stories is all about sharing amazing stories about amazing women. Women that have gone through various challenges in life, and have overcome. Women that use those lessons as a game plan for their ever-changing lives. This week’s feature is just that woman.
Meet Melody Godfred.
This particular woman is a mama of 5 year old twin girls, Stella and Violet. PLUS she has a bun in the oven. Teddy is set to arrive next month, and if there’s one thing we love more than an awesome boss babe, it’s a PREGNANT awesome boss babe! Especially while we’re in a season of honoring phenomenal women with the rest of the world, it’s awesome to be able to share living proof of what a woman is really capable of.
Not only does she juggle motherhood in with all her daily ventures, but she teaches others how to fall in love with themselves. This can be a challenge all in itself because it takes a WILLING participant and unfortunately, the willing are fewer. The average person will say they’re willing, but won’t be actively seeking to love themselves first, for whatever reason. Something like your typical New Year’s resolution.
Melody was a very successful litigation lawyer, and thrived in her position in a prestigious firm. However, over time, she realized that this career was sucking every good force of life right out of her body. Law is about conflict, and in many cases leaves a sour taste in one’s mouth. She began to feel a stronger disconnect from the good inside of herself, as she grew within her firm. She eventually rounded up the courage to venture down a more creative path by writing and publishing a novel, The Agency: Hollywood Talent, CIA Managed. She also launched her first company, Write In Color, a career development and personal branding company, that is still growing today. This is where she plants the seeds in others, and also provides the water to help it grow.
Melody is also the founder of Fred and Far, which is a Self Love Movement, powered by her first Self Love Pinky Ring. She realized that she needed daily affirmations to make sure that if nobody else built her up, she would do it herself. She vowed to honor herself first, and to always be mindful of her purpose and worth. Others around her began to jump on board, and together they made pinky promises to themselves to love themselves first and to always push for self discovery. The women that took the leap of faith to follow her make up Melody’s tribe. They provide her the encouragement and inspiration to keep seeking the best version of herself. Fred and Far is her heart’s passion.
She’s also managed to spread her word’s throughout California and beyond. Melody was a featured mentor at the Teen Vogue Summit, as well as speaking at Claremont McKenna College for the Claremont Women in Business.
Her mantra is also the Fred and Far pinky promise pledge: “I pinky promise to choose myself, honor myself, and remember myself daily.” She confirmed the magic that takes place inside yourself when this is the intention. I am definitely going to give this a try, and challenge my sisters to do the same…Choose Yourself, Honor Yourself, And Remember Yourself Daily! We can do it!
Love you Melody,
You’re an amazing BOSS BABE!
Celebrity Edition: Gina Rodriguez
In continued celebration of all things WOMAN, we wanted to feature another celebrity she-boss that embodies empowerment, self love, and dedication to her purpose. This week’s feature is GINA RODRIGUEZ!
She’s more commonly known for her leading role on Jane the Virgin, where she plays a working class Latina who becomes pregnant by accident via artificial insemination. But she’s also a woman that stands for higher eduction among Hispanics, as well as supporting causes that promote self love and positive body image.
Gina was raised in Chicago, under a Puerto Rican roof, where both her parents raised her. Gina was 1 of 3 girls, and the importance of education was instilled early in life. She absorbed information like a sponge and knew that her education was one of very few things that nobody could ever take away from her. She was the recipient of the HSF (Hispanic Scholarship Fund), which allowed her to further pursue her love for theater and fine arts. She later on became a board member of the HSF, where she’s able to use her platform to raise awareness of the importance in higher education. She thinks of this as “giving back” since this is the same program that helped birth her platform. She also has her hands in anti-bullying movements, such as the “Be Good to Each Other Campaign”. She was reminded how her parents taught her to treat others with respect, and felt the need to take a stand to help younger generations understand how bullying can impact lives, and to teach kids of their power against bullying.
Gina also knows that part of being a woman is learning to love yourself as well as your body, your curves, and your shape. So she joined Naja, which is a lingerie line that pushes to help women and the environment at the same time. After witnessing some of the struggles that single moms face on a daily basis, she was moved to collaborate with a company who’s foundations were built on the backs of single moms. Naja understands that it’s not always in a company’s best interest to make an employee choose their job over taking care of their family, so they primarily employ single mothers, and offer programs to help pay for school uniforms, books, and lunches. They offer a flexible work environment, and the ability to work from home and provide for their families. Naja has also adapted their lingerie to suit women of all sizes, and to make every woman feel sexy and desired in her skin. And since over half of the pieces are made of synthetics manufactured from recycled bottles, they’ve found a way to incorporate used resources to turn it into a piece that any woman could love herself in.
Being a SHE-BOSS is all of the above. It’s growing your knowledge. It’s standing up and using your voice, and empowering others to use theirs. It’s loving yourself first so that you can spread that love to others. It’s protecting your environment. It’s loving your body, and it’s loving your life to it’s highest potential.
March is Women’s History Month! We celebrate amazing women’s accomplishments, both known and unknown. And it’s fitting that we kick off our first feature this month with a woman who brings life, love, and laughter through her journey and trials.
Meet TAMIKA MICHELLE!!!!
This woman, like many she-bosses, wears several hats. She’s a single mother of 3, an author, a mentor, a life coach, and an inspirational speaker. I’ve been honored to see her speak myself, and let me just say that she pulled me right in. She has a gift of speaking life into people. Especially in today’s climate, where women are seeking, finding, and defending their place in society, She Stories looks for those women and shines some light on them. Tamika is a force that comes in love and transparency, but allows herself to meet people exactly where they’re at. Not all women are in a place where they can stand on their own 2 feet, some have fallen, and need help getting back up, and she does just that.
Much of her strength has come from her hardships earlier in life. As a youth, she was physically and sexually abused, which trickled over into unhealthy relationships. She found herself seeking the unconditional love that she didn’t feel as a young girl, from men who consistently put conditions on her. Through two unsuccessful marriages, the struggle to find her voice and her own strength. This later led to a suicide attempt and a cry for help, but when all the stress piled on her back, she had a stroke!
Since we are all blessed with free will, many times God will allow us to hit our own heads over and over and over again, until we finally throw our hands up and let Him take the wheel. And that’s what she finally did. Tamika realized that they only way she was going to end this vicious cycle in her life was to stop using her struggles as crutches, and to use them as steps to the next level. Having that epiphany caused her to take a look at her life and the big picture. Even though it took her some time to cross the bridge from unloved to self love, she’s been able to teach women to do the same. She travels all over, speaking at schools, churches, women’s events, and domestic violence shelters giving a breath that has probably saved a few lives.
We are such resilient creatures as women. We were made to withstand severe trials. Even though we may feel broken at times, we have the ability in ourselves to patch our wounds and keep movin. And Tamika is one of those women that will help you clear your lenses so that you can see your way. She has dedicated herself to showing women how to turn their trials into treasures!
We love you, girl!
Celebrity Edition: Jennifer Lawrence
This week’s FEATURE FRIDAY is a celebrity edition! And we’re happy to feature Jennifer Lawrence. She’s a 28 year old femme leader, but more notably recognized as a leading actress. She’s was raised as a “tough girl” in Kentucky. Being that she’s the only girl of 3 kids, she had to be tough to keep up with her brothers, but Jennifer always knew she was meant to be an actress. She would often pull her dad aside so that she could act out scenes for him, and her mother didn’t like her playing with other little girls because she was “too rough” on them. It’s funny because if I had to picture her as a child, I could see her being tough, and not takin mess from anyone on the playground.
This character trait spilled over into her adult life. She’s known to be an amazing actress, but also has a very reachable vibe about her. Like she could be one of the girls, the more bold and loud one, but hilariously funny, and will have your back in any situation. Her ability to move through her characters and breathe life into a script has allowed her to be nominated and win several awards. My favorite JLaw movie is Joy, where she plays a single mother with a knack for inventing. She’s taking care of practically everyone in her family. She comes up with this new invention for a mop, and literally starts off selling them in a parking lot. Every obstacle that came her way found no place to rest because she fought to find a way to overcome it. This took her all the way up to getting them sold on QVC. And my favorite part was when she had to handle a matter where her manufacturer was trying to steal her idea. She went and faced him directly to demand that he stop, which he did eventually. This is definitely not a movie review, but if you follow our passion for strength in women and overcoming the impossible, then it should be pretty simple. There’s a little bit of “Joy” in all of us. We handle dilemmas, no matter the size. We take care of family, no matter the price. And we fight for our dreams, no matter WHO stands in the way!
Jennifer is also well known for her feminist movements with Planned Parenthood, her firm ground on women’s rights, and her fight to decrease the gender pay gap. She, and several others, started the Time’s Up initiative, to bring sexual harassment and assault to the foreground of conversation and increase awareness. Jennifer has used her platform to educate young women to “get tough” and to demand our respect.
Jennifer exhibits what She Stories is about, empowering women to be great in our skin, our abilities, and our purpose.
This week's feature is nothing less than a powerhouse of feminine strength, brains, and beauty. Meet Kwayera! She was raised in Queens, NY and now lives in Jamaica, where she’s a mother of 3, and an international entrepreneur.
Kwayera’s youth was fueled by her parent’s unrelenting devotion to make sure she was grounded with an excellent education, the strength of a queen, and the ability to survive in a man’s world. She has a strong sense of a village and her tribe, and the purpose they serve to her. As a child, she soon learned to not take “no” for an answer and to always have pride in all she does. And her parents made sure she knew this wasn’t an option, but a prerequisite. Failure did not reside anywhere in her core, even when she didn’t reach her goals. It just reminded her that she hasn’t found the right combination, yet. She doesn’t believe in giving up, which has served her well. Instead, she pursues her obstacles like hurdles and her upbringing has trained her well. Her father taught her to demand her respect, and would sometimes include her in conversations with the elder men. Doing this gave her the ability to run businesses, both local and national. She learned how to effectively reach people. Her mother nurtured her with humbleness, but taught her to keep a strong backbone. This balance is the root of her favorite quote by Mahatma Ghandi, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. When we forgive we are free."
Kwayera’s now runs the Immersion Retreat series, which includes focus groups in a resort setting, cultural activities, and tours. This is a time for reflecting, growing, and sharing. It’s also fitting that one of her greatest inspirations is water. The flow of water moving allows her to cleanse her mind and get her thoughts and goals aligned. She’s also inspired by the purity of genuinely good people. She’s found that when people have a blazing fire inside of them to bring joy and truth to others, that light burns so bright that others around them can’t help but be touched. Kwayera believes in spreading her light and equipping others with the tools to breathe life on their own fire. She’s an inspirational force and living reminder of a woman’s true beauty and the power her crown possesses. YEEEEEEEEEEEES!! This is needed now days more than ever!
Her mantra is this: “Everything you think, say, do, and desire is creating your next moment, your future, your destiny.” We must be mindful of all the steps we’re taking on our journey. One wrong move can set us back 10 steps, so even if our moves are small, make sure they’re made with intention and courage.
We love Kwayera for her pererverance in sharing her knowledge and passion for women around the world to thrive in their tribe!!
Celebrity Edition: Reese Witherspoon
As you know, we LOVE celebrating women and their accomplishments. From the everyday woman who pours into her community and squad, to the celebrity that thrives in her position in life, and spreads the love to everyone in her reach. This week's feature is the latter, but none other than THE REESE WITHERSPOON!
We admire Reese because there's something so comfy about her. It's probably her Southern roots, and her warm smile. But we also love her because she also believes that women are capable of great things. Reese shares our passion for celebrating us as women and sharing with the world ALL that we accomplish. She uses the platform she's been blessed to have, to reach out to women and children everywhere. Reese is involved in many child advocacy programs, and is involved with movements that uplift women and their journeys. In 2017, Reese teamed with Elizabeth Arden to build marketing content that highlights the female centered brand. As a creative partner, she plans to build the brand by focusing on women's real life experiences, and turning them into powerful, "she boss" campaigns.
While she's mostly famous for her work on the big screen, we love her for the organic woman she is, the down home Southern girl, the mother, and hard worker she is. These are just some of the things that we can ALL be. You don't have to be a celebrity. I guess my main point to featuring Reese this week, is to show that she's done some great things in her life that many of us know nothing about, and sometimes as women, we can feel overshadowed by others. We might feel that our hard efforts go unseen, when that's really not the case. Your tribe sees your efforts, even when the rest of the world doesn't. Your circle will lift you, when you need to be picked up a bit. There's a little bit of Reese in all of us, we love, we're amazing, and we're capable!
We love you Reese!
Hello…My name is Leilani. If you’ve been keeping up with our weekly features, the name might look familiar. I’ve personally had the honor of reading each woman’s story, learning about their ups and downs through life, and how that all ties into who they are currently. One thing that these women have in common, is that they all recognize what their tribe pours into them, as well as what they give back to their tribe. They’ve pushed themselves through barriers, and they’re STILL growing!
Those closest to me knows that I’m not one for the spotlight. I appreciate the “behind the scenes” work, but I mostly find joy in taking a step back every once in a while, and seeing the beauty of the big picture that I helped paint. I love showcasing other strong, beautiful women, because I also find a piece of myself in their stories.
I wouldn’t really call this a feature, but more of an introduction of myself to the rest of the SheStories tribe.
I’m a 39 year old, southern CA native. I’m a wife, a mother, and a step mother. I serve ONE God, I love music, and I find peace with my laptop on a rainy day. I’m about 2 months into a new piece of my journey that includes daily exercise and not eating everything that smells good and contains massive amounts of cheese. I’m a late blooming writer/blogger. In college, I used to write papers for people for a small fee, but I never guessed that I’d later be using my love and gift for writing to try and change lives.
I don’t own a business (yet), but I’m still in the process of learning and growing my gifts to eventually serve a bigger purpose for myself and for others. Being a “BOSS” doesn’t always mean you have to own and operate a company. You can still be a boss and work for someone else. If you’re a mom nursing scrapes and bruises, YOU’RE A BOSS! If you’re accomplishing goals, no matter the size, YOU’RE A BOSS! And if you are working on being the best possible version of yourself, then guess what, YOU’RE A BOSS! There’s a boss in each and every woman.
I’ve been in the Design industry for the past 15 years, and just stepped away from a company that had employed me for the past 6 years. I enjoyed my job, but I knew my purpose wasn’t being served. I made a promise to myself to never work another job that didn’t serve MY purpose in some way. And in doing that, I’ve opened myself up for more gratifying work. I'm Founder of LyfeShowsUp, where I write and share motivation and inspiration. I'm long overdue for new material, not because of a shortage of life events, but because I'm working on my consistency (work in progress). I’m also a Behavior Interventionist working with children with autism, and I LOVE knowing that my work is helping children as well as their parents.
There have been ups and down throughout my life, but one thing has remained consistent--there’s a lesson to be learned through the downs, and there’s laughter and love to be had through the ups. My favorite scripture comes from Proverbs 3:5-6, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” If I ever feel like giving up, I repeat this to myself. Lately, it’s been when my muscles hurt after a good workout the day before…lol. But even in my sweat and pain, I’m learning to take better care of myself. I don’t always make the right decisions as a mother, but I make every effort to make sure my kids feel loved and to lead by example.
My tribe consists of several people who sharpen me in different ways, but always with love. I trust their input because I know where it’s coming from. I know that if I have a problem, I can bring it to “the board” to get sound advice, prayers, and encouragement. My tribe pushes me to reach goals, they encourage my greatness even if it looks different from theirs, they love me despite, and they allow me room to grow.
I love my tribe of sisters, friends, cousins, aunties, pastors, YOU NAME IT! My tribe is strong!! And that’s what She Stories is…..STRONG!!!
It’s FEATURE FRIDAY y’all, and of course, we have another phenomenal woman to share with you this week.
Meet Myisha Croom-Turner!
Before we dive into who Myisha is, I’d like to paint a picture for you. Do you remember Denise Huxtable from The Cosby Show? For those who might now know, Denise was the free spirited, bohemian butterfly who endlessly tried to find her place in the world, and in her family. Being that Denise's parents were a doctor and a lawyer, she wanted to find her own way. She moved with the flow of her passions and inspirations. Well, after reading Myisha’s story, the first thing I thought was “Denise finally made it!”
Myisha is a 43 year old serial entrepreneur by way of Compton, CA who now resides in the Inland Empire. Seven years ago, her and her husband opened their first Heritage Farmer’s Market with less than 10 farmers and vendors. Now, they have 6 farmer’s markets with over 40 vendor stalls. She finds joy in promoting business for local farmers and educating her community on healthy living.
While Heritage Farmer’s Market was flourishing, she began to feel the demands of her time, so she chose to sell a successful art studio that she co-owned. She felt the stress of everything that goes along with selling a business, and as a way to cope with the anxiety, she started arranging flowers for her home. She kept freshly arranged flowers on her nightstand, and called them her “Bedside Pretties”. She posted her floral companions on Instagram every week, and before long, her followers were sending her messages and pictures of the arrangements she inspired them to make for themselves. Eventually, people began to request her floral arrangements which then birthed Bohemian Blooms.
Along with these two businesses, Myisha is propelled by God, her husband, and her talented tribe of girlfriends. But one of her greatest inspirations is her 17 year old son, Myles. At the age of 8, Myles was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes. As she nurtured him through insulin shots, and an altered diet, she watched Myles take an illness that life handed him, as he drove himself to be limitless in his abilities and to live a better life than statistics calculated. His courage and resilience inspire her to be more flexible with the ups and downs of adulthood.
Her mantra is simple, “Why are you trying so hard to fit in, when you were born to stand out?” She is unique, and she embraces and grows others to be unique and beautiful in their own skin. Living a life that’s true to herself has worked for her, and she has no intent on “fitting in” to society’s norms.
Myisha’s favorite scripture comes from Psalms 139:14, “I will praise thee, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knows right well.” She has put all faith in God that He knew what He was doing when He created her.
She Stories is about all women finding their unique beauty and being the greatest version of themselves as possible.
Myisha does just that, and we love her.
PS….Denise Huxtable was my favorite!
It’s FRIDAY guys, and we have a new feature to share with you! She’s conquering her roles in the international corporate world, while killin it in her community by feeding souls.
Meet Patrice Russell!!! She’s a self-proclaimed “African Butterfly”, but after reading her story and checkin out her IG…she’s more like an “African Butterfly with lion tendencies”. She’s a 47 year old woman who strives to nurture her community as a human connector and seed planter. Planting seeds in others is an important role. Sometimes that’s all people need to get going in their purpose, is someone to come along and plant a seed, water it a little from time to time, and watch it grow. Her love for mankind and the arts (especially music) has allowed her to plant seeds in her community. Patrice is a certified life coach, vocalist, and poet. She loves to empower others to be the best version of themselves they can possibly be. And she knows that her strength is built through her tribe because they’re a major pillar in her sanity and success.
But that’s only half of what she’s made of!
Patrice also has a flourishing career as a veteran marketing executive, with a leading global commercial real estate firm where she leads marketing efforts for over 8 million sqft of Class A office towers and retail right in the heart of downtown LA. She’s a leader, and a striking force within her profession.
One of Patrice’s favorite quotes is from Maya Angelou, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” These words are put into action by planting the seeds necessary to help others succeed. What a gift! And with that gift, she’s reminded that “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” (Phillipians 4:13)
She is bold AND beautiful, and we couldn’t be more honored to have Patrice in our tribe of greatness!
You know, I still come across people who don't know what a "creative" is. For those who might not know, a creative is a person who uses their imagination to fullest. They see the world with a different set of eyes. Well, then...What is a SUPERCREATIVE?
/sōō-per-krē-ā-tîv/ noun; an individual exceeding the norms or limits of originality of thought, expression; über imagination.
Coming straight outta Inglewood, CA., she was nurtured by her community's raw arts and natural breeding ground of champions. This watered the future entrepreneur in her. And she developed a hunger to always turn nothing into something. Brandi is always challenging herself to make things better, no matter how great they already are.
Amongst her flourishing greatness as a she-hero, she has also found ways to grow her empire as an owner of a boutique bakery and cafe, a grounded mother of 2 young men embarking on college and middle school, running a catering company, and owning a farm salad company. Her passions include photography, writing excerpts for an unwritten book, and creating new fashions. When she's not concurring all of the above, she's also able to juggle world domination by inspiring others to be free. Can we even keep up?!?
Brandi's mantra is simple: Take good care of what you already possess and operate in humility; your blessings will flow freely from there. This also ties in to one of her favorite scriptures: "I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength." (Philippians 4:11-13) Be content through life's ups and downs because we have the strength to overcome it (whatever IT might be!)
When asked what her tribe means to her, Brandi boldly states, "I have HUGE dreams which requires HUGERRIFIC TRIBES and teams!!! It’s most important to surround ourselves with people that are passionate about what they do AND are smarter than us and are moving toward the same things." She recognizes that in order to fulfill her purpose, she has to lean on others who share her drive. She knows that the strength of her tribe maintains momentum when they push forward together as a unit, and that her tribe is only going to polish her shine.
Brandi's SUPERCREATIVE self is exactly what SheStories is all about. We aim to show the rest of the world see our vision, we show others that loving yourself from the inside out makes you even more beautiful, and that sometimes we need others to help straighten our crowns out.
If Brandi's story is a preface to 2018, then our year looks pretty bright, wouldn't you say?
We love you Brandi!
Each Friday, we like to feature a woman who’s killin her goals and helping the next person kill theirs too. We like to dive into how they got to that place, and some things they learned along the way. This week, it’s our pleasure to feature Lecia Fox!
Lecia was born and raised in Kansas, but now lives in Southern California, where she’s a fitness instructor, and a body-positive mentor. About 5 years ago, she began to notice some negative changes that were going on with her body. Things like skin rashes, weight gain, hair loss, fatigue, and severe anxiety. Her doctor had diagnosed her with Chronic Stress Disorder. She wasn’t comfortable with the “magic pills” that were prescribed because she didn’t want to live in an altered state of feeling nothing. Instead, she sought out ways to balance her life out a little better. She found an integrative nutritionist who taught her how food can heal the body. She also started seeing a chiropractor who helped align her body, as well as an acupuncturist. Incorporating all this together allowed her to find a love for meditation.
For the next year and a half, Lecia turned this alternative lifestyle into a whole new way of life. She found that by doing so, many of her ailments had vanished, she lost weight, her skin irritations cleared up, and her hair began to grow back. With the help of professionals, she learned how to fall back in love with her body, INSIDE and OUT!
She found the courage to eventually leave the service industry, and became a personal trainer and coach. She used the things she had learned along her journey to help other women that were going through the same things. She took the typical fitness regimen and completely transformed it into a makeover, not only for the body, but for the mind and soul, through meditation and affirmative prayers.
FoxFitness was birthed as a way to help women reconnect to their bodies on a deeper level than just aesthetics fitness. She’s combined building muscle, faith, and confidence into a whole movement that’s growing by the minute.
Lecia’s inspiration comes from finding time to be still and present in the moment, feeling her heart beat and her lungs fill and release air. These simple moments of awareness refuel her fire to spread this to others.
Way to go Lecia! You’re our FABULOUS FITNESS PHENOM FOR FEATURE FRIDAY!
Well, it’s that time of year again! We always tend to love the beauty of Christmas. The colors, the festivities, and the sense of family and togetherness. Even the grinch, and crazy holiday shoppers are a staple in the overall Christmas experience. This week, we want to celebrate another joyous soul, by the name of Brittni Richardson.
Brittni is a 32 year old Cali girl, who’s also known as B. Rich. She’s a wife, mother, makeup artist/beauty educator, and owner of the B. Rich Collection, which is a cosmetic collection “for the celebrity inside every woman”. Talk about a SHE-BOSS!
As a young girl, Brittni had an appreciation for the real power a woman holds. She witnessed this firsthand with the older women in her life, primarily her Grandma Barbara. She admired how these women were able to take life’s lemons and turn it into some sweet lemonade in an ice cold mason jar on a hot summer day. Brittni ended up working in financed, and progressed in her job, when her Grandma Barbara fell and broke her hip. She took care of her, made decisions on her grandma’s behalf, and had to call out many times, which eventually took it’s toll on her, and her job. As many of us know, everyone is expendable in the corporate workforce, and Brittni was no exception, so they let her go.
And ever since that day, she’s vowed to never give anyone the power to fire her in her darkest moments. Just like the women before her, she made her own lemonade. She threw herself into braiding, singing, and doing makeup to keep her hustle going, and often remembered how it felt to be thrown away. Brittni has used this to fuel and ignite a fire in other women to know their worth.
Brittni’s favorite saying for herself and others is “YOU CAN DO IT!” It’s so simple, but so powerful. This very phrase can make the impossible possible! Having a tribe is important to Brittni because “You can’t do everything alone. It’s important to have people who can push you further when you want to stop.”
“And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” (Romans 8:28) This is her reminder that even through life’s hard roads, it’s all leading to something greater.
We love you Brittni, and blessed to have you in our tribe!
I believe that some of life’s hardest lessons give the biggest rewards. I also believe that we all play a small part in a bigger picture of making the world a better place. When we are able to rise up from our ashes, dust ourselves off, and then pay it forward to teach someone else, we’re having a positive impact on the world.
So that brings me to Terica Wright. Terica is the oldest of 3 kids, and was raised in a humble, farming community just north of Seattle. At a young age, she learned that crying was a form of weakness, and to never show your true emotion. So she developed a thick skin, and unfortunately, dropped out of school at the age of 16, and became a single mother at 21.
As many of us know, having children will throw you into a life of HUGE responsibility. The type of responsibility that can either make you or break you. Terica wasn’t going to let these things break her, so she found herself in the corporate world chasing the “American Dream”. She threw herself completely into work and moved up the ranks to success, only to over exude herself, and eventually break down mentally.
Her rock bottom came when she lost two loved ones within 9 days of each other. Again, she’s faced with something that can either make her or break her. Through her pain and grief, she realized that she needs to make some desperately needed changes, and one of the biggest lessons she learned was that her time here in this life is SHORT. She started making positive changes mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Terica began a journey of weight loss and learning how to love herself unconditionally. She began reading and listening to inspirational podcasts, and reaching out to others she knew would help build her, because she couldn’t do it on her own—NONE OF US CAN!
Now, years later, she has completely transformed into a woman that loves herself, INSIDE AND OUT! She values the struggles she went through, and uses them as a tool to help other women become the best version of themselves.
Terica’s favorite quote comes from Maya Angelou, who said “My mission in lie is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.” This is really what She Stories is all about. Living versus existing, laughing, loving, crying, and building— while makin it look good. When asked why it’s important to have a tribe, she gave a quote by Jim Rohn, "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” If you immediately started thinking of those 5 people in your life, you’re not alone. She Stories wants every woman to have a tribe of love, support, challenges, and victories.
Terica is tribe strong, and a goal crusher! We love you!!!
Let’s introduce LaKisha Johnson, an awesome she boss, who’s triumphed some of life’s hardest blows. She’s the mother of 4 sons, Glorie, Germaine, Jaleel, Josiah, and Judah. She’s the CEO/Founder of several movements. She’s also lived to overcome the loss of her husband and survived being a victim of domestic violence in her earlier years. WOW, RIGHT? This doesn’t include all her other hats in motivational speaking, community advocacy, and business leadership.
LaKisha founded LMJ Ministries, where she uses her unique evangelistic outreach, along with her nurturing spirit to reach others. She’s been blessed with the ability to draw people in, as she walks them through the Word, and uses her life’s stories as a tool.
In 2014, she lost her husband due to complications with the sickle cell disease. This moment would later birth Sickle Cell Support Services where others going through this battle can find resources, encouragement, and strength to keep going.
A major part of her life are her 4 sons, one of which is a national recording artist, Ki’shon Furlow (Glorie). She also knows what it’s like to be a teen mom, and a survivor of domestic abuse. These parts of her journey has allowed her to reach a broad spectrum of women who have gone through the same thing, something similar, or knows somebody that has.
One of LaKisha’s favorite scriptures is Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” What an awesome reminder that during hard times, His ultimate plan is to help us prosper, not to hold us back.
When asked, “Why is it important to have a tribe?, her answer was simple: The tribe is a necessity, we were not created to operate in this world by ourselves. I call it the partnership, and when your partners are in place, then your cup never gets empty. Be sure to watch the YouTube video below to see LMJ talk about pouring from or into an empty cup, and what that means. You’ll be happy you did!
Coming out of the recent Thanksgiving festivities, it’s only right that we feature a woman who’s driving passion is to promote a healthy and active lifestyle. Amy Stanton started her business, Stanton & Company (S&Co), to help build brands for other women in business, and to grow and inspire more role models.
From a young age, Amy was taught, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” This saying still holds true today in her daily living. She embodies the belief that by uplifting and encouraging other women, this will leave a lasting impression on the world, not only for her generation, but for many after.
Amy promotes this belief in her work as well. S&Co offers services such as brand marketing, public relations, and sponsorship/partnership cultivation. Everything about her business screams “YOU CAN DO THIS! YOU’RE A BOSS!!” Teaching other women how to polish their brand is a powerful tool to give someone.
Amy’s grandfather planted a seed in her by saying, “Things are never as good or bad as they seem.” This sits as a reminder of the many ups and downs of running your own business.
A tribe is intimate. They will push to do to better, while helping you when you fall. Sometimes they fall with you, but you both get up and keep going. Your tribe will lift you up and help you shine, because they know they can look to you for the same thing. Amy is a strong example of tribe unity, and everything that She Stories is about.